Talking to Kids about Sex

Parents want to give clear and useful information to their kids about sex and relationships, but this is no easy task in today’s complicated world. TV and media are full of confusing and overwhelming images. The old idea of a birds-and-the-bees talk is increasingly outmoded and insufficient. Children eventually recognize that sex is an important part of adult life, and those who have trusting relationships with parents will ask questions and start relevant conversations.

Teens aren’t usually given much detail on sexuality in high school beyond some biological basics in health class. They may even witness their friends in intense situations and aren’t always sure how to help or where to turn.

Rather than planning on a one-time talk, parents will find household life offers many opportunities for spontaneous conversation and exchange of ideas. When you hear explicit song lyrics on the car radio as you drive your child to sports practice, you might comment:”Wow, that’s kind of intense. What do you think of it?” If your daughter is watching a show with a singer in a revealing costume, what happens if you say,  “That is some outfit, isn’t it?”

Encouraging your kids to talk to you, even about subjects that embarrass both of you, will create an atmosphere of openness. When the topic is more personal and requires a level of closeness and trust, these small exchanges will pave the way for higher-stakes conversation.