Lack of Desire/Libido

Lack of Desire/Libido

Although many, many couples experience lack of desire or are mismatched in their desire for sex, knowing that this is an extremely common problem doesn’t make it any less frustrating! I listen carefully and actively work with you on your particular situation. I help you generate real-world options to try, so that you’re making sense of what to do to move forward.

Each couples’ needs are unique. Together we figure out how you can use new behaviors or thinking habits, so your relationship generates energy and positive feelings for both of you. The patterns of initiating intimate contact that you’ve established together may not serve you as well as you’d like, and so you wish to adapt to your current needs. Sometimes couples have gotten in a habit of assuming any touch must lead to intercourse and they end up avoiding each other because it all seems too complicated.

Complex emotions or personal history might be getting in the way of trusting each other. We may help you focus on pleasant sensations and the more subtle aspects of touch, so you can relax and simply enjoy yourself because it feels good to be close in an emotionally safe way.

Occasionally these concerns may be influenced by a medical problem, and if so I’ll help you find the right specialist.
Sometimes the logistics of life present barriers to intimacy; stress and the lack of time or energy weigh on the relationship. These demands may cause you to feel helpless or resigned, contributing to less frequent sex; and the less sex you engage in, the less likely you’ll continue to enjoy a lively and healthy, vital intimate connection. Nevertheless, sex is still some of the best “glue” we know of to hold couples together and you may be surprised at the changes you’re able to achieve once you decide sex is important and worth prioritizing.
Curious to hear more about this topic? Read my article, Is There Sex After Marriage? Please contact me if you’d like to hear more about how I help couples reinvigorate their relationships.