Clients

Lack of Desire/Libido

Lack of Desire/Libido

Although many, many couples experience lack of desire or are mismatched in their desire for sex, knowing that this is an extremely common problem doesn’t make it any less frustrating! I listen carefully and actively work with you on your particular situation. I help you generate real-world options to try, so that you’re making sense of what to do to move forward. Each couples’ needs are unique. Together we figure out how you can use new behaviors or thinking habits, so your relationship generates energy and positive feelings for both of you. The patterns of initiating intimate contact that you’ve established together may not serve you as well as you’d like,...

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Affairs and Trust

Affairs and Trust

Couples can recover from affairs. Those who choose to remain together often continue to struggle with physical intimacy even after they feel more emotional closeness. Sexual connection is possible to rekindle, and you don’t have to give up this aspect of your relationship because one of you got distracted or made a mistake you now may regret. Couples come to me for help after sexual affairs, emotional affairs, even cyber-affairs. When one person strays from the relationship and keeps secrets from their partner it can be extremely hurtful and damaging, even if no physical activity has taken place. I hope you’ll get in touch so you can learn more about this...

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Difficulty with Orgasm

Difficulty with Orgasm

When sexual enjoyment is not so simple, relationships can become discouraging, embarrassing or frustrating. Dealing with limitations in the way we feel, or the way our bodies respond, involves obtaining information on anatomy and physiology, body awareness or “tuning in.” I teach you awareness exercises and practices as we work together in the office, and instruct you in activities you can do at home to keep your body and mind engaged in making the changes you want. We always go at your pace and, rest assured, everything that happens in the office just involves us talking. Although some people experience intense emotions when talking about such a private subject, I...

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Sexual Pain

Sexual Pain

If you’ve experienced sexual pain, you may be afraid it’s “all in your head.” It’s not so useful to try to untangle body and mind differences. Whatever the qualities of the pain bothering you, (aching, burning, soreness or sharp pain) sex should never hurt. If it does, something’s wrong and it’s important to pay attention. In therapy we’ll get to the specifics of exactly what you’re feeling in order to develop some hypothesis about what is going on. Sexual pain can involve complex bodily systems. This doesn’t mean we can’t find answers, but it often takes some patience. Nevertheless, please believe that you don’t have to live with this condition....

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Porn/Sex Addiction

Porn/Sex Addiction

The terms “sex addiction” and “porn addiction” have been widely promoted by the media and accepted by the general public. In the field of sex therapy, these are controversial topics and generate considerable debate. The concept of addiction patterns being applied to sexual behavior is a new and untested idea. People who were experts in addictions started working with clients and discussing sexual behavior. With the advent of online porn being widely available, these people who were familiar with addictive processes applied their thoughts and framework to client reports of their sexual activities. These ideas were also largely based on work with a population of clients...

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Complicated Emotions about Sex

Complicated Emotions about Sex

Do you have unexpected reactions when you’re being sexual: • crying or feelings of embarrassment • disgust or “tuning out” • being preoccupied and unable to concentrate • uncomfortable or self-conscious feelings about your body • experiencing intrusive or unwanted images and fantasies Maybe you just want “more” from sex, even though you aren’t sure exactly what that means. People of all ages and backgrounds struggle with how to experience sex as a simple and enjoyable activity created by Nature. We live in a time of abundant and ever-present information, imagery and material related to sexuality and yet we often end up confused and over-stimulated about it....

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